These past few months in India have been a journey of their own... What haven't I learned? It feels like I just went through a crash course in "reality" and I did not even have a chance to take time to digest it all...Had to gulp it down the throat, but its all for good, right? like they say, what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. It for sure does not feel like that in the beginning but it does when we look at that ray of hope.
First and foremost, Thank You all for reading my posts and staying with me on my journey. I know I have been in some really dark places and you have been there for me, by my side. Knowing that my friends are with me on this journey, helps :) I don't think these last few months would have been possible without my friend's strength and support....Maitreyi, Neha, Radhika you have been my pillar and I am sincerely grateful to Creator to have given me all of u....Adeline, Harold, Jerms, Julie, Sarah, Sheelagh...and the list has only begun...Maybe Universe took my parents but in return gave me amazing friends that have become family with time. I heart you all...<3 and how could I forget my sister? She has her own unique way of expressing her love for me. :)
Toughest lesson has been "boundaries". What is allowed and what is not allowed when you are in a relationship with someone, that is something I learned from my previous relationship. Now in the U.S our boundaries are different. We can still go up to our ex's (if your relationship has ended peacefully) and hug them and actually have a genuine conversation with them, but in India even talking to a married or taken man is not something that is taken well by anyone in the society. Forget hugging, even saying "hello" might be taken in a wrong way. Now coming from such a vast culture (specially living in San Francisco; where everything is allowed) India has been a tough, tight place to BE in.
So, I stayed pretty protected from politics and lies in States. I purposely chose to stay in jobs and situations where I knew I did not need to sell my soul for money. Cause if I did, I knew myself well enough, I would not be able to sleep at night knowing I had to climb the corporate ladder stepping on someone else and that was not fathomable for me. So instead I decided to stay in low paying jobs knowing I could at least get a good nights sleep and that my conscious was clear, keeping myself away from politics and lies. But all the protection went right out of the window as soon as i stepped back in India. In States, corruption/ politics take place at a much senior level but in India it starts the moment you are born. You have to be smart enough to be able to tackle the way of life here. It is the survival of the fittest the moment you are born......after all, you are living in a population of 1billion; everyone fighting for recognition and money. Its not an easy race and the worst part is you are in it even if you don't want to be.
So then how do you cope with all of that? We learn the art of detachment; keeping people at arm's length and seeing life for what it is instead of sugar coating it. aaaahhhhhh... so much easier said then done :) I have been lucky to have some really good friends but according to what I hear, they are rare to come by. Trust is a big issue; pouring your heart out just may not be your best bet, here
In short all I am here to say is, I am GRATEFUL... .for Life, for Experiences... for Moments that I may not be able to capture in words but I am only grateful for it ALL. Cause they have made me strong....hopefully a step away from seeing the world just the way it is instead of sugar coating it...Hopefully having the stomach to digest it all.
I am Blessed and Thank You all for Being here...
Love